The little things matter – 5 small things you can do to stay connected to your lover

little-things042017-small.jjpgSometimes marriage can become a grind. There, I said it.

You get wrapped up in your work and taking care of the kids. The dog poops on the floor, you have to run to baseball games, you have to figure out what’s for dinner. The house needs cleaned. There’s a birthday part to attend this weekend. You have to do your taxes, pay bills, wash the car.

Life is busy. Many times your relationship can get lost in the shuffle and people can begin to feel a little disconnected. If it goes on too long people will start to question whether the other person cares anymore.

To make sure this doesn’t happen there are easy ways to stay connected to your lover and make sure that they know you care. Most of the time it doesn’t take much effort but the feelings of love and connection for the other person will be larger than you can imagine.



When you get home from work or from being away for more than a few hours, make an effort to connect with a kiss. Actually, approach them and make the first effort to kiss them on the cheek or on the lips.

Kissing is the most intimate and simple way to show that you care. Don’t miss an opportunity to reconnect the bond with some kind of kiss at every opportunity.



It’s hardwired for people to crave touch. So many unspoken things can be said through a simple touch of the hand. Saying ‘I love you’ can be accomplished simply by placing your hand on another’s hand. Make sure to take the time to touch your lady in small ways.

  • If you pass her, run your hand across her belly
  • If you kiss her, put your hand on her hip
  • If you’re in the car, put your hand on her leg
  • When you enter a room, put your hand on the small of her back
  • When you leave her for the day, give her ass a good squeeze

All of these things create connection and strengthen the bond between lovers. It’s a second in time but consistent touch can connect two people forever.



Yes, it’s a cutsie word but snuggling and cuddling is critical to a lasting relationship. Feeling close to your lover and knowing that they enjoy being close to you in return cements the bond.

Especially for men, we crave intimate touch and feeling physically close to our woman.  From birth we crave the feeling of our skin against another human being. Making sure that we’re close to our lover on a regular basis is critical for our happiness and to consistently show that we want and love our lady.

Sometimes you just want your space or you just might be wrapped up in something else and you forget. But if you make the effort when you don’t have to, it will make a big difference over time.

  • If you’re watching TV, get close and touch.
  • When you go to bed at night, snuggle close to her. Even if you’re tired. Even if it’s only for 5 minutes. Say ‘Good night’ and ‘I love you’ with your touch and your body.
  • After dinner, sit close to her. Don’t hang on her, but get close and touch.
  • If you’re driving in the car, ask her to sit closer. If it’s a long drive, maybe she could sleep on your shoulder or put her head on your lap.



Connecting with people in our modern world can be a challenge. We’re busy. But there’s really no excuse to occasionally (every other day) take 2 minutes and text your woman for no reason at all.

It’s surprising how important texting has become in our lives. Woman love to to text people and receive texts in return. They can feel genuinely hurt and neglected if you never take the time to text now and then.

  • Send them a quick heart emoji. This simple gesture says ‘I love you’ and I need you. It can connect you for the entire day in one click of the keyboard.
  • Tell them how your day is going and ask them about theirs
  • Occasionally tell them you miss them
  • Flirt. Always flirt. Text them and tell them you want them and need them. Get dirty from time to time. Start the foreplay first thing in the morning and you’ll be surprised what will happen later in the evening.
  • Upgrade your emojis. There are many emoji packages that you can download that allow you to send simple messages and pictures that explain your mood and that send a message. Experiment with everything.
  • Send them a picture of your smiling face.
  • Send them a sexy picture.
  • Text them to just say ‘hi’.


Get creative

Nothing shows that you care more than doing something creative and out of the ordinary. It shows that you actually care beyond the moment. It really is easy to touch and squeeze and snuggle while you’re watching your favorite shows. But when you do something out of the ordinary and get creative it really shows that you truly care.

Here are some final tips on getting creative:

  • Leave them a love note on their pillow or in their car. It doesn’t have to be long and poetic. It could be a post-it note that says ‘I love you’ or ‘I want to fuck you at lunch’. Whatever. You know your lover so give them what they want and need in a few simple words.
  • Surprise them. Again, it doesn’t have to be anything super time intensive. Maybe you grab their ass if it’s something that you don’t normally do on a regular basis. Maybe you snuggle up against them in the morning for 5 minutes if you normally just jump out of bed in the morning. Maybe you help them do the dishes or fold clothes for no reason.
  • Do your research. There are endless blogs and articles online to inspire you. Hopefully this one has helped you take the next step.


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