For men, sex is one of the greatest joys in life. The pure bliss of lovemaking and getting intimate with the female body is something that simple can’t be matched by any other experience on earth.
We all work hard to achieve this experience. Harder than we do for any other experience in our life like like eating amazing food, vacations, time with friends and family and rare bucket list experiences. Getting to part the legs of our lover is the culmination of days, and often weeks of heavy pursuit.
How many times have you had sex, just to immediately crave more? Sometimes this can happen because it was so good. But most of the time it’s because we didn’t fully experience what just happened. It was like the thrill of riding a roller coster — it was just all over too quickly. It was a blur of emotion. Your mind was in 10 different places thinking of 50 different things at once.
So how to do you have the best sex of your life? The secret is that you need to treat love making like meditation. Some may call this tantric sex, although I would suggest that they’re two different mindsets and approaches.
When you meditate, you are intensively focused and present. You pay attention to every breath. You take in every noise. Your mind is completely in the moment. You FEEL everything.
When you treat sex like meditation, your mind isn’t in 10 different places. You’re not worried about what your partner is thinking. You’re not worried about what you look like. You don’t worry about what you’re going to do next. You’re not worried about cumming too early or lasting longer. You are taking it all in. Every thrust. Every squeeze. Every touch.
Meditative love making demands that you’re in the moment and present with your lover. You FEEL your skin on their skin. You FEEL the wetness of the contact with her body and with the softness of the bed. You are completely aware of everything related to your partners body and your own, and NOTHING ELSE.
It’s nice to actually see your partner during lovemaking but it can sometimes help to do in complete darkness at times. You can be more focused on the senses and not worried about your body, your expressions, their expressions, what’s going on in the room. It’s like being blind and having your senses heightened.
The next time you’re with your partner, try a little sex meditation. If you’ve never actually meditated before it might be a little difficult. So, here’s a tip to get you started: Slow down. When you move, feel it. When you touch, be present and be aware of the contact. When you are close to your lovers face, try to hear or feel them breathing. When you slide into that amazing, wet, tight rollercoaster, be present and take it all in like it’s the last ride you’ll ever take. When you exit the ride you’ll be more satisfied, content, connected with your lover and it will be some of the best sex you’ve ever had.